“Who am I?” How many times have you asked yourself this question?
I myself used to ask this question more frequently than not. It is a question I can’t seem to find a definite answer for. A question so simple yet so hard to answer.
“Who am I?”
I think this is not at all a question that’s needed to be answered right away, rather a guide for the steps we’ll take in the journey of discovering ourselves.
“Who are you?”
You may feel lost while trying to find answers for this question, but it doesn’t mean that you are lost. Think of it as a way of wandering around depths of yourself, you may visit a lot of corners but you have just one destination: yourself and the acceptance that comes with it. The usual problem is that you are torn between who you are inside and who you want to be outside. Unconsciously, you know who you really are but choose to be who you want to portray yourself in front of other people. This causes the unsatisfactory feeling when you confuse who you really are with the latter.
The first step in knowing yourself is analyzing what you want and what you do in most situation you find hard to be yourself. In doing all of this, don’t think of other things and just focus on your thoughts because at the end of the day, you are the only one who truly knows the entire you. Second, don’t you ever focus on other people’s thoughts about you, it will just emotionally destroy all the faith you believe you have for yourself. Keep doing what you are doing because the true satisfaction will not come from them but in your own happiness. Lastly, acceptance. It is easier said than done, but once you achieve a true acceptance, it will lead you to a clearer vision of your whole being.
Who we are isn’t definite; who we are is boundless.
I am myself as you are yourself. You shouldn’t let anyone give definition to your whole being. You yourself is the only one entitled to who you may be. Don’t ever feel the need to impress people about who you are. If there’s anyone you need to impress, it’s yourself.
As George R.R. Martin said, “Never forget what you are, for surely the world will not. Make it your strength. Then it can never be your weakness. Armour yourself in it, and it will never be used to hurt you.”